Create the Life You Really Want to Live in Six Easy Steps Starting Now


By Jo Condrill

What’s life all about? You’ve probably heard older people ask themselves that as they look back on their lives. You only go around once, so why not make the most of it? If you ever catch yourself saying that you’ll really start living your ideal life “when I get out of school” or “when I move out of my parents’ house” or “when I have more money,” you’re making excuses for your life instead of taking ownership of it.

Unfortunately, you’re not alone. Every day millions of people let their inner fears stop them from creating the life of their dreams. Our “Live for today; tomorrow will take care of itself” attitude may be caused by fear. . . Fear that we won’t measure up or fear that we won’t have any friends. While no one will deny it’s scary to step out of your comfort zone and take a chance on something new, once you challenge your fear and take action, you can attain great things.

Step One: Dream Great Dreams

Imagine you could be anything you want to be, do anything you want to do, and have anything you want to have. What would you imagine? Would you live in a shack or drive a Lambroghini? If you could design the ideal life you will be living 5 years from now, what would it be like? You’ve got to figure out what you want before you can have it, otherwise, how will you know when you get it? Once you’ve identified your dream, you can take the steps to make it come true.

There is no straight line to take you from where you are to where you want to be. One of the most effective routes you can take though is learning from others and setting your sights high. Once you’ve set a goal, commitment, determination and persistence can help you achieve it.

Step Two: Make a Decision

In every single decision we make, we exert a power to shape and control our lives. Unfortunately, instead of pursuing our own empowerment, we sometimes blame our choices on things that have nothing to do with us. How many times have you heard someone say, “I had no choice” or “I couldn’t help it?” Was that really the case, or did the person just not understand the power of his or her personal choices? Notice how your life changes with every decision you make, no matter how small. When you take responsibility for your decisions, you can shape your ultimate path.

Step Three: Exercise Your Power to Choose

Identify what you need to do to make your dreams a reality. Think of what it is you want, then think of what’s standing in your way, the obstacles that may make them seem out of reach. Then think of your favorite video game and overcoming the obstacles to win the game. Life is a game; figure out how to go around, over, or through the obstacles. Think of the resources you have, like friends and family, an education, a job, talent, and know how.

Step Four: Get Help

Only tell people about your dream who can help you attain it. Let them be involved with you as you explore your options. They can provide energy and “know how” that will help you persevere. No one has all the answers. Find support early in the process and your journey will be much more fun and rewarding. When I ended up having to support myself, pay all my bills with only a part-time job, I was kicked into action.

Step Five: Keep Score

Just as you wouldn’t play football without keeping score, neither should you ignore the score when it comes to your life. Figure out where you are now. Establish a baseline; it’s your line of scrimmage. Know where the goal line is. Keep track of your progress and decide if where you are at any given time is where you projected you’d be. Learn from your successes and failures and determine what you need to work on to achieve your goals.

Step Six: Reward Yourself

Medals and trophies from others are great rewards, but it’s also important to reward yourself. After all, you’re doing all this for you. Commit to paper how you will reward yourself when you reach a certain goal, and then follow through. For example, buy those designer jeans you’ve been wanting; treat yourself to a day at the beach, buy something that will remind you of this success. Give yourself a well-deserved boost to start working toward your next goal.

Take Charge Today for a Better Tomorrow

The thrill in this game called “life” is charting a course, facing challenges head on, and holding someone else’s hand along the way. Sometimes you win; sometimes you lose. Either way, when you focus on the big picture and refuse to let past mistakes keep you down, you create a future filled with possibility. So live to the fullest in the present moment and make the most of it to achieve your vision—your Gold Medal of Life.



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Exceptional People Magazine is where self empowerment, hope and inspiration happen. I’m Monica Davis the founder of Exceptional People Magazine and my mission is to enhance the quality of life of all people by promoting goodwill, unity and better living through positive media. Through this magazine you will be inspired to reach new heights.

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