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Adopting The Mindset Of A Child
Life Lessons We Can Learn from Children
Have you ever just sat and watched children interact? Depending on their age, it’s a lot different than how adults interact with each other. They laugh, they shout, they get excited and they just, generally, enjoy the life that they’re living.
Sadly, too many of us lose that wonder and happiness as we get older. We think we’ve got to get serious and that we need to learn what we can from the world around us. But children have a lot to teach us as well! In this article, we’re going to explore top lessons that we can learn from children.
There is beauty in everything in the world around us.
One thing that a lot of us seem to miss out on is the beauty that is in the world around us. Children, however, see the beauty in everything around them, whether it’s a butterfly that is flying through the garden or a pile of Lego that has yet to be made into a masterpiece, they get excited about it.
This is also true when they look at people who may be labeled as “unattractive” by the rest of the world. According to Jacqueline DeMarco at XoVain, “It really doesn’t matter what you look like. What matters is how you treat them: If you listen to what they have to say, value their feelings, and smile, you are instantly beautiful in their eyes.” They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that statement holds the most truth when the beholder is a child.
Hate is taught to us, it is not something that we are born with.
The late Nelson Mandela spoke about love and hate frequently, and one of his most well known quotes is “No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”
If you watch children for any period of time, you will note that they don’t really care about what other people look like. You see children of different races, backgrounds, and socioeconomic statuses interacting and they don’t notice that they are with people who are ‘different’ than they are. All they care about is that this person is treating them as they should be treated, so that must mean that they are their friend. When was the last time that you looked at people that way?
We always have an opportunity for a new start.
“Wasn’t it always amazing how the end of a school day always felt so final, so finished? The break between June and September seemed like a lifetime. Because when you are young, every day feels like an eternity and a new day means new opportunities to make new friends, explore new adventures, learn new things. Children don’t carry baggage from one day to the next. They start fresh, always.” Those words were from an article by Jocelyn Kelley, a freelance writer for the Huffington Post. And truer words have never been spoken.
As adults, we have a tendency to look at the past and get stuck in it. Children, however, are excited by the fact that every day is a new experience; a new adventure. What if we kept that trait as adults? What would that look like for us? It would probably be a lot different than the way that we live now. So, instead of getting stuck in the past, why not face each day as the new beginning that it is meant to be?
When you say that you’re going to do something, then stick to it!
One thing that you always hear adults tell kids is “do as I say, and not as I do.” This is a horrible way to go about things; your words should always match your actions, no matter what words are coming out of your mouth at any point in time.
Ted Rubin says that “After a certain age, we call this “integrity.” Did you make a commitment? Stick to it. Did you twist the truth? Straighten it out. Did you deliver what you promised, when and how you said you would? Don’t give yourself the option for any answer other than “Yes!””
Express your emotions freely, but responsibly.
Katie, the “Wellness Mama,” puts it this way: “Children are often excellent at showing emotion and very much in touch with how they feel. As adults we often learn to suppress or avoid emotions which can create stress. Certainly, children do have to learn to express emotion in a responsible way but we can learn a lot in the way they vividly feel and express their emotions.”
Think about the last time that you allowed yourself to cry. Or feel angry. Or deal with any other type of emotion. As adults, we’re taught to bottle those things up. Children, however, allow those feelings to shine through. So, take a hint from your kids, and allow yourself to express your emotions in a mature and controlled manner.
There is always time for you to have fun.
Just because you’re over the age of 18 doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to have fun anymore! That’s a common misconception that needs to be dealt with. It’s healthy for you to go out on dates, play games, laugh at television shows, or even do some of those things that you haven’t done since you were a child (yes, that includes playing with Lego!). If you aren’t giving yourself time to play, you aren’t giving yourself time to live or be happy.
Kayla Albert says that this is one of the most important things that you can learn from children about your mental health. “You always have time to play. If you don’t, it’s not a priority. You might have been told that playtime is not necessary. That is a lie. Children are happy because they allow themselves quality time with their imagination — something that should continue into adulthood.” When was the last time that you actually let yourself just play?
Kids really do have a lot to teach us adults! Instead of just trying to take life so seriously all of the time, why not sit back, watch some children (maybe even your own!) and learn what you can from the way that they live life. You may find that you can learn more from them than you could from any self-help book.